An unexpected pregnancy can affect each partner differently. If your partner is considering abortion while you want to raise the baby, you may feel frightened or hurt. You may also be unsure how to explain what this pregnancy means to you without making the conversation more difficult.

Wanting to keep the baby is not something you need to hide. Although you cannot control your partner’s decision, you can speak honestly, listen to what is influencing her, and show her what your support would look like in practice.

If your partner is considering abortion or remains unsure about her decision, Women’s Clinic offers no-cost, confidential pre-abortion consultations. Same-day appointments are available, and no insurance is needed.

Reach out to request an appointment today.

Tell Her What You Want Without Pressuring Her

Choose a time when both of you can talk without feeling rushed. Be direct about your hopes while making room for her to speak.

You might say, “I want to keep and raise our baby. I also want to understand what is leading you toward abortion and what you need from me right now.”

Speak from your own perspective rather than telling her what she must do. Threats, demands, guilt, or repeated arguments may cause her to withdraw from the conversation. Your goal is not to force an immediate answer. It is to help her understand how you feel and the responsibility you are prepared to accept.

Listen for What Is Influencing Her Decision

Invite her to share what feels hardest right now, and give her space to put those concerns into words. Even if your first instinct is to offer an answer, listening first may help her feel understood and keep the conversation open.

You can disagree with abortion while still taking her concerns seriously. Listening does not mean you agree. It gives you a better understanding of what may need to be addressed before either of you can have a productive conversation about the future.

Once you understand what is influencing her decision, the two of you can look at those concerns more closely and learn what resources may be available.

Turn Your Support Into a Plan

Saying that you will “be there” may not be enough if your partner is uncertain about what the future will involve. Think about what you can realistically commit to doing.

That may include attending appointments, contributing financially, adjusting your schedule, helping arrange childcare, or reaching out to family and community resources. Avoid promising more than you can provide. A smaller commitment that you consistently keep may carry more weight than a sweeping promise made during an emotional conversation.

You can also offer to prepare for parenting alongside her. Through LifeSense Educational Classes, Women’s Clinic provides no-cost prenatal and newborn education, parenting classes, fatherhood support led by trained male team members, material assistance, and referrals for needs such as housing, medical care, insurance enrollment, and childcare.

Male team members also provide one-on-one mentoring and emotional support for fathers and fathers-to-be. You can ask questions, discuss your concerns, and learn practical ways to support your partner.

Participation in classes can also provide access to diapers, clothing, and other baby essentials. Women’s Clinic can offer referrals to community resources based on your family’s circumstances.

These resources cannot settle the decision for your partner, but they can help you replace a general promise with information, preparation, and a realistic plan.

Invite Her to Learn More About the Pregnancy

Neither of you has to settle the future in one conversation. Before a final decision is made, your partner can learn more about her pregnancy and ask questions in a confidential setting.

Women who are considering abortion or are unsure about what they will do can receive a pre-abortion screening at Women’s Clinic. The appointment may include medical-grade pregnancy testing and, when appropriate, a viability ultrasound.

A viability ultrasound can provide information on estimated gestational age, pregnancy location, and the presence of cardiac activity. Your partner can ask the Women’s Clinic if a viability ultrasound could be right for her.

If she wants you to accompany her, you are welcome to join. Women’s Clinic may speak with her privately during part of the appointment, and male team members are available to speak with partners.

Connect With Women’s Clinic

You may not be able to resolve this disagreement immediately. Begin by telling your partner what you hope for, listening carefully, and showing her how you are prepared to participate if she continues the pregnancy.

Women’s Clinic provides no-cost, confidential pre-abortion screenings with no insurance required. Call or text 443.333.8856 or request a same-day appointment.

Women’s Clinic does not perform or refer for abortions.